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Here are some thoughts pours by Kyels with the post Love Hurts. Well since a little bit of elaboration is needed, I thought I might as well do it here so I don’t over crowd your comments. *sigh*
I did a research in word for the word “love” and here are some of the results I picked out
1. very strong affection
2. passionate attraction and desire
3. somebody much loved
4. romantic affair
5. strong liking
6. something eliciting enthusiasm
If you noticed, you would find that it’s usually tagged with extremity, such as passionate and strong. Love can be considered the ultimate feeling as it can consists of so many emotions at any single time. It can consist of happiness, hatred, anxiety, depression, etc. Like what some has said it’s a magical feeling.
If you ask me, I would say it has been overrated and misused in our society nowadays. Every now and then, you can see members of the society using the word love, “I love him”, “I love her”, “I love this”, “I love that”, etc. I know that they are trying to express their feelings but are they expressing it correctly. How many times have you seen some lads and lass who might still clad in uniform starts yelling out “I’m in love with so and so” to the world friends. Are they really in “love”. Do they know the exact meaning of “love”. Some would say that it most probably is puppy love or something like that, but I have gotten a bit further and would think that those feelings are merely a “like”.
The word like would be most perfect as I find those are feelings of like which may resemble love. It is so often that we are blinded with a sudden burst of sweetness that we think that we are in love. We meet some one we like and then we start to indulge in the relationship, and we call it love? I don’t think so. It is always mistaken that one can easily fall in love but in reality, they actually like what they see or do or whatever. And then from there on you learn to love the person… correct me if I’m wrong. Of coz, there are exceptions, but I find it too rare to really give it a real thought, as it may be considered as a fairy tale of some sort.
Like what I have penned down, you can like a whole lot of things and peoples, as it is subconscious. You can see some cute stuff and you like them or you can be doing something for the first time and you like it. As for love, you have to really takes time. As for some thing you like to do, you have to practice a lot and like what you are doing. In the meantime being passionate bout the things you do will land you in a state where you love doing that.
As for the love of a lifetime, you definitely need to like the person first, coz that is the stepping stone for you to love them. If you do not like them at all, then don’t even think you’re gonna fall in love with them. Loving a person means to love them in whole. In whole means to love the person for who he/she is, along with all the flaws that comes with the package. Love as said will let you look surpass all the flaws and learn to accept them rather than to change them. That is why love is unconditional, unselfish and so much more. That is why love is such a magical feeling that cannot be described and explained.
Every one can or would I say are born with the ability to like and dislike, but loving is the difficult part. It is not easy to learn to love. It is a process that cannot be rushed and it is determined by the path that we thread no matter chosen or chose. All the events that happen in our daily life contribute to the learning process of love.
So when you think that you love someone, think again…
Do you LOVE them
Or
Do you LIKE them
Kyels on 23 Nov 2005 at 07:00:03 583 #
I haven’t been in love before but I know what being loved and loving someone is like.
I’ve learnt how to love my friends and it’s not like because when you love someone whole heartedly, who would want to give the best out of you and the best of everything you can give to that person be it emotional support or physical support.
Love is cannot be defined so easily. We may know the meaning of love but how many out there truly know what love means? Love is when you give someone something unconditionally without even thinking of the rewards that you may get after that. Love is special and it’s not meant to be broken though many of us have suffered heart breaks.
I’ve loved one of my friends dearly. More than anyone could think of. She was my closest friend amongst the seven of us but things and circumstances change too… And now she is completely different from what she used to be. I think I’ve lost her and I’ve given her everything that I have - my friendship love for her, my care as a good friend, my love for her as my very good and close friend. She even promised that she will be there all the time when I need her but now.. I guess that promise doesn’t apply to us anymore. I really don’t know. It hurts and yes my heart aches too. Longing for those memories that we used to share. The laughters we used to have. But now… Poof. It’s all in my recollection of memories.
Is this what you call love? Or this is what you call - like?
I think it is love. But it’s a love for a friend.
Everyone of us have experienced being loved and love in return. It’s not easy to love someone neither it’s easy being loved. Love will help you overlook many things in life. We have flaws within us and we are not perfect but when you are with someone whom you love and he or she loves you too, love will help to surpass that.
It’s nothing but love. All we need is a little bit of love. Cannot be greedy can’t we?
I guess this is what love means to me besides the post that I’ve blogged about.
zeroimpact on 23 Nov 2005 at 12:42:45 821 #
Kyels
Love indeed is not easily done or defined. Love comes in many relationships, be it friendship, family, spouse etc. I guess love do consist of some good and at times bad stuff. But if we look at it in the light against darkness, then we would see so much more. The bad feelings and emotions normally come with rejection, changes etc. I guess if we really love them, we should learn to accept these rejections and changes.
I took a very long time to accept these and so called love them enough to accept that their change is for the better for them, though it might cut deep inside. Humans are selfish, but love is not. I guess that is why we hurt so much as we are selfish and want things to be as they are, not changing in a way that hurts us. But love is unselfish, therefore, it is contented that they have changed so they could be more happy and life a more fulfilled life for themselves, but in the process, we have to be left behind.
I think love is the same unselfish love, but we categorize it into the different type of love we feel. I would say love with all your heart. The learning process is never over no matter where we are, how old we are, how many we have loved.
Do take care of yourself and look things in a different light, it might not do much to kill the pain, but it does let us see things differently. Then may be we can appreciate the change and be happy for them.