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A student asks a teacher, “what is love?” The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the paddy field and choose the biggest paddy and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big paddy, but he wonders ….may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one… but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he start to realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted !!!!
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, “…this is love… you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person….”
“What is marriage then?” the student asked. The teacher said, “in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, “this time you bring back a corn…. you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get…. this is marriage.”
I guess the little story reflects what I have to say in a way. It’s too often that we unconsciously behave like the student. Regrets fills the air ever so often and then when we realized it, it’s a little too late. I have been through the paddy process or still going through it, I am not sure.
Everyone has his/her own expectations, they may be met or may not, but one thing to ponder is, how many can pick their perfect corn? I believe most of us are picking the corn that we deem we are satisfied with and not the perfect corn.
For those who are still in the paddy field or those in the corn field, best of luck in your harvesting!
What do you think of love and marriage?
What else do you think can portray love and marriage?
Winn on 17 Feb 2006 at 14:29:36 895 #
This story is so interesting. it is true.
it happens to us so often, i mean , when we were younger la..
we always wonder what’s beyound ..and end up with nothing…
like me now.:p
zeroimpact on 17 Feb 2006 at 15:34:21 940 #
Winn dear, it’s not too late to start back now.
There’s so much out there for you to discover…
Look around you k, someone may just be lurking around.
Cheers
Piggie on 17 Feb 2006 at 16:07:48 963 #
Interesting story! Woo…just like a reflection of the past =/
…sometimes after going through something that left a scar in us, it’s rather difficult to start all over again…it’s just like an after-effect situation and you won’t see things from the same angle again. So, it’s still a big question mark whether one will enter the corn field or not if he or she has gone through that kind of situation. Hmm…
*still lost in the paddy field* Haha…
devilfrmheaven on 18 Feb 2006 at 15:56:18 955 #
an apt theory. very often, we’re like the students. come to think of it, we’re students. we learn till our last breath.
zeroimpact on 19 Feb 2006 at 22:26:46 226 #
Piggie
Life is not easy to live through, but then again, it does wonders as well. You will soon leave the paddy field, when you decide on the corn. Follow your heart, things will work out fine…
Devil
We are the never ending students. As long as we breath the air, we shall continue to learn. Happy learning to you and all.
devilfrmheaven on 20 Feb 2006 at 22:27:56 227 #
penny for thought: what if we decided we don’t like corn after some time? will we leave for the next town? or to the grapevine yard?
Kyels on 21 Feb 2006 at 21:38:49 193 #
I have heard of this story before but it was portrayed in another way. Love and marriage are different things. Love is an emotion that you have for that person whom you fell in love with … But marriage is all about commitment.
With love comes marriage but that is not the case all the time. There are different kinds of love for example … Love for our friends, parents, siblings and special someone. So … It can be portrayed differently.
When one talks about marriage they have to think about the commitment that they are about to make. Marriage is not only something legal that is written on a piece of paper or certificate but it takes a lot of hardwork so that the marriage will work. It’s not simple. A lot of people thinks that marriage is a very simple thing but actually it’s tougher than one can think of.
I feel that love and marriage is not the same thing. One is about emotions and the latter is about commitment and responsibility.
zeroimpact on 22 Feb 2006 at 14:31:13 896 #
Devil
I guess it’s really up to the individual to choose either grape or corn or even any other things…
But come to think of it, what would happen if it becomes reality…?
zeroimpact on 22 Feb 2006 at 14:37:22 900 #
Kyels
Then I guess the corn and paddy do come in different…
I do agree with your thought and everything is different in nature, be it emotion or commitment, it has often been misunderstood as one.
I guess it’s not easy to commit to marriage though it can be easy to fall in love. Let’s hope the choice we may make will be the appropriate one.
Cheers