Posted under Life & My Thoughts
The Qing Ming festival is a yearly event, as I described before. Well, what I want to tell today is something I truly feel strongly, but I could never do it to perfection. I am a person that deals fairly well with death and such, that is I do not go all berserk and asks you to stop talking bout it. To me, it will come either sooner or later, but which I doubt I can take it this easily too when it comes.
We bought a couple’s Urn place for my parents, near to our grandparents so our parents will be able to rest with them at least at the same location, which is Nirvana. In the process of all these, we were taken to the many expensive lands which was bought and duly renovated. They cost more than a detached house in town, I would say, in terms of millions. What caught my attention is something else, a guy, in his twenties and furthest would be just below thirty.
He goes to Nirvana Memorial park as often as twice a week or more regular, I can’t really remember. Some may say he is crazy going to the cemetery so often. He visits his girlfriend, which he bought an urn place for in the same room where my grandparents and eventually my parents will be. Accordingly, he lost his girlfriend to cancer and since then, he has been there very often, going to the cemetery, just chatting with her.
I imagined him, to have care for her and love her so very much. Which is what we should all do? We should learn to love and care for them when they are around, not when they are not. And even when it comes to that, we do it once a year, in the Chinese community.
I believe that many have lost the tradition as they just do as they are told without knowing the meaning of it, especially the younger generations, me included. I often wonder, why can’t we do it anytime we want to, as many times as we want to? Why do we need to wait till the season to do it?
I salute the guy, for his love, and envy his girlfriend. I wonder how many can even come close to him.
How strong is your heart?
How strong is your love?
How strong are you?
day-dreamer on 23 Apr 2007 at 20:14:16 093 #
Wah, I really admire that guy… he is so passionate towards his late girlfriend…
And by the way, did I miss it or what? I just discovered this cool preview function today.
may on 23 Apr 2007 at 21:21:35 139 #
hmmm… I never in all my life had to visit a cemetery; my grandparents were cremated, as are all my other deceased relatives. the temple is as far as we go.
zewt on 23 Apr 2007 at 21:51:23 160 #
my heart goes out to him… he epitomise the meaning of true love… while what he is doing is very honourable… but i sincerely wish he will one day pick himself up and move on in his life. dont you agree?
nyonyapenang on 23 Apr 2007 at 23:17:33 220 #
i see ‘chingming’ as a day set aside to pay respects and honour our departed kin but of course, we can always go and visit their resting place as often as we want to. they will always remain in our hearts.
similarly, valentine’s day, father’s day, mother’s day and all the other what-have-you days….it’s just a day set aside too. but we love and cherish our loved ones all year through.
everyday is a good day.
niceheart on 24 Apr 2007 at 11:51:40 744 #
Now, that is what I call true love. And I agree with you that we should really care and show affection to our loved ones while they are still around, and not when they’re already gone.
13thpanda on 24 Apr 2007 at 12:25:17 767 #
oh~i wanna cry, that’s true love.
We go “sau mu” twice a year, once in qing ming, then once during the ghost festival mth.
pinkwinnie on 24 Apr 2007 at 21:02:08 126 #
wal…!!! he’s really love his gf.. feel pity for him.. why he can’t have the chance again to be together with his love..
annamanila on 24 Apr 2007 at 23:21:57 223 #
There are still guys who “love better after death?!” That’s almost the stuff romantic movies are made of. I hope he soon overcomes his grief and move on. Did you say he goes to visit every day?
It’s true we should demonstrate our love while our loved ones are still living. Unfortunately, we dont realize that till its too late.
misti on 25 Apr 2007 at 06:28:59 520 #
wow, i wish that guy happiness, sincerely.
i think i know how he feels..
cp1 on 25 Apr 2007 at 12:35:03 774 #
How strong is your heart? HMMMM NOT SO STRONG ..
How strong is your love? VERY STRONG
How strong are you? 50 - 50
happysurfer on 25 Apr 2007 at 15:31:58 897 #
That is so sweet! Perhaps he was as devoted to her when she was alive and is continuing his devotion even after her death. It really is a big effort visiting her twice a week. Not many people would do that. He must be missing her lots. I feel for his loss.
Z, thanks for the reminder to appreciate the people we still have with us.
king's wife on 25 Apr 2007 at 17:08:44 964 #
wow..such undying love.
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:32:14 689 #
day-dreamer
Yes, he is like one in a million
And yes, it has been there for sometime
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:33:30 689 #
may
Yup, mine too now, but still have to pass by the cemetary
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:35:08 691 #
zewt
Yes, but I’m not sure if he has picked himself up or not for I don’t know him
I’m sure he will be able to do just that
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:37:47 692 #
nyonyapenang
Yes, exactly what I want to say. Why do we need to set a day when everyday is a good day, especially with those around us
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:40:09 694 #
niceheart
Yes, a love that is so rare nowadays
We should always care for those around now and not show the care when they are not
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:41:54 695 #
13th panda
Something like a story in real life
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:43:08 696 #
pinkwinnie
Life is not fair at times, sometimes, most of the times
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:45:27 698 #
annamanila
Almost every day
Just like in movies, but then not really a thing we want for we want happily ever after and caring when alive for everyone
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:46:19 698 #
misti
Everyone deserves happiness
You and me alike
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:50:43 701 #
cp1
Heh heh heh
I like your answers
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:52:09 702 #
happysurfer
I never doubted him, for if he did not love her as much when she’s alive, he would not have done what he did
I feel sad everytime I see him
zeroimpact on 26 Apr 2007 at 10:53:00 703 #
king’s wife
What every girl wants and don’t want at the same time